Dealing With Stress

dealing with stress

If you know me, you know I get stressed; a lot and every easily. I don’t know what is, but I’ve always been a worrier. I used to constantly have stomach aches as a teenager because I was always stressed/anxious about something; it wasn’t fun.

I’ve been pretty stressed out lately; it’s a mixture of big and small things: work (the usual – incredibly busy and short-staffed) , our apartment (it’s leaky, and will cost a bit to fix), my husband’s health issues (he blogged about it a while ago, if you would like to have a read) and a whole host of other things that keep my grinding my teeth and unable to sit still because I can’t stop fidgeting.

Last year, I shared a list of things I need to remember when I’m stressed/bummed out, because honestly, it can be hard to focus on things when your mind’s rushing. This year I thought it might good to share a few things I do to unwind and de-stress a little.

Asking myself these questions – what’s the worst case scenario? What’s the best case scenario? What’s the most likely scenario? A lot of the time I’m stressed out, it’s because I think I’m in trouble, or because I’ve doubted myself so much that I think I’ve completely fucked something up. In those cases I find thinking about the best case/worst case scenario and then working out what the most likely outcome will be incredibly helpful. I helps me put things into perspective – nine times out of 10 the most likely outcome is usually never nearly anywhere as bad as the worst cast scenario.

Talking about it: This is something I need to do more often, because Lord knows I hate talking my feelings. I always feel a lot better when I’ve talked about what’s stressing me out though (even if I think it’s small, or really stupid).

Crying: because sometimes, you just need a good cry.

Doing something active: I find that exercise is a great way to de-stress; it helps me focus on something other than what it is I’m stressing out about, and I tend to feel really good/a little worn out after a good workout or walk.

Self-care: This can be anything from having some me-time (which, not going to lie, is the best kind of time), to getting away for a bit, or simply having a cup of tea.

What do you do to de-stress? I’d love to know, because honestly – the more ways I have of winding down and de-stressing the better! xx 


  1. Hannah says:

    A couple of ways that I like to unwind are: pampering myself: getting my hair or nails done and catching up with friends.
    Also, this may sound weird but vacuuming my room or doing a load of washing! – I like my room to be nice and clean:)

    • Kahurangi says:

      Those sound like awesome ways to de-stress :)
      Cleaning doesn’t sound weird at all! If I need to unwind and am home alone, I tend to do a deep clean of the house and put on a few loads of washing (clean clothes and crisp sheets are great!)

  2. Justine says:

    For those really stressful spur of the moments I love Bach rescue remedy. Really calms me down when things get intense. I’ve found removing myself from a situation and coming back later with a refreshed mind always works…be it walking away, having s cup of tea or even just saying no. In the end you need to look after yourself to be the best you can be.

    • Kahurangi says:

      Rescue remedy is great isn’t it? I have that as well as some day drops I use sometimes as well :)
      Removing yourself from a situation and then coming back later is great too – when at work, if I can, I tend to go for a walk around the block, or just to the kitchen to get water, and then coming back when a clearer mind :) xx

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